- A standard formal invitation
is black or silver lettering on heavy white paper or parchment
- Make sure the type is easy
- Some invitations can be engraved
- but be warned, this is expensive!!!!
- An alternative is thermography
(also called embossing) which produces the same effect but
without the raised lettering
- Invitations are usually issued
by the bride's parents with the bride handling the acceptances.
If you do not live at home give your RSVP address and maybe
a phone or fax RSVP).
- Italian etiquette differs
from above, in that the wedding invitation usually comes from
- Greek etiquette is practically
the same, except that the order of the names is reversed.
The grooms's family precedes that of the bride.
- Make sure you place an RSVP
date on the invitation so you will be able to give numbers
to the caterer by their required time.
- The invitations should be
sent 4 to 6 weeks before the wedding day (earlier if possible)
- Place your return address
on the back of the envelope for returns check on numbers
- Only one invitation per family
and should include the names of those children you are inviting
- Separate invitations should
be sent to adult children of the family (even if still living
- Close friends and those relatives
who will be unable to attend due to sickness, distance or
other reason should still be sent an invitation
- It is never good etiquette
to state a dress code on invitations
- If you are having an informal
wedding of fewer than 50 people your invitations should
be hand written but it is acceptable to have them printed
either individually or writing the names and your signature
- Always ask for more invitations
than needed (they are expensive to have reprinted later)
It's a good
idea to shop around. Most printers have a large selection
of sample books. It is important to decide on the type and
tone of your wedding and then choose an invitation and stationery
to complement and convey this to guests.
- You may want napkins, table
place cards, thankyou cards (to take a small photograph),
match books, cake bags or boxes, and other services
- It is common practice for
the guests to be given "orders of service" so
they can follow the service. These may be provided by the
printer or the church
- You should be surprised
at the comparatively low cost of having your stationery
printed by a professional printing firm
who prints the stationery make sure you check the details
and content before going to final print. Mistakes will be
costly to fix.